Thanks for all help.
I think I finally found the last problem.
I had a IP alias for ::1 so I could have a easy to remember static gateway.. it had a /128 per how I'm used to setup ip aliases. Apparently the dhcp server were using this as base for it's range6 statement and it also messed things up somehow so it didn't reply to that anymore.
After removing the ip alias and also disabling ipv6 completely on the lan interface and re-enabling everything including the ip alias but now as a /64.. everything seems fine again.
Not sure if some check was changed between the releases.. because this issue started after the upgrade.