@reberhar SUCCESS
After the latest upgrade for pfBlocker I started to have the same problems all over again and none of my other methods fixed it.
I finally got onsite and have learned some useful things.
First I have 2 Netgear GS108PEs, and one worked properly in this situation and the other did not. After thinking about it I realized that the one that functioned had 802.1q VLAN enabled. So I enabled 802.1q VLAN on the one that was not functioning correctly and the problem disappeared. No I didn't make any VLANs on the second unit, although the first unit I mentioned does have them. I just enabled 802.1q VLAN.
I reasoned that perhaps multicast was somehow involved in this. (duh) So I worked through enabling multicast on my Ubiquiti 24 port smart switch that had failed with this challenge earlier. It actually involved the Cloud Key as well.
This I did just on the two ports I am using for HA, not the entire switch.
That worked too and is still working.
😊
Yes I know, multicast is mentioned in the HA diagnostics write up. I guess I was just not following through. Actually, I was just a little unsure how to proceed. I have other very smart switches that have been testy in this pfBlockerng / HA environment. I am excited to try this approach with them.