I would look for one of the much older Intel NICs then. Something that predates those features you don't want.
The FreeBSD Realtek driver has had issues for a long time. Some versions of that chip will give problems. Others, such as that one in the APU, seem to run fine.
Realteks own driver generally performs better with the problem chips versions and that is now available as a package.
I have not personally tried that TP-Link card. YMMV
Steve