I have a new status here:
For some reason, the ipsec connection is now established via the backup link.
In general, that is exactly what I want - but it seems that there is no return to the primary gateway.
Both gateways are online now, but ipsec connection still established via the backup link.
It would be really helpful if someone could explain the behaviour of pfsense in details,
I guess I have not enough informations to understand that behaviour correctly.
BR, Nils