Working solution: I was finally able to get what I wanted, by manipulating the strongswan config manually, and restart IPSec.
PFSense already has a bypass LAN setting, that can be checked and unchecked in it's IPSec-config, so my solution is just to edit the list of networks that have status as "Shunted".
Can be done via the GUI: Diagnostics -> Command Prompt -> Paste Command -> Execute
(Using sed to replace the relevant lines in the strongswan-config-file and restart ipsec)
sed -i '' -e 's#192.168.250.0/23,fdd0:192:168:250::/64#192.168.250.0/23,[DMZ-IPv4-NET]/29,fdd0:192:168:250::/64,[DMZ-IPv6-NET]/64#g' /var/etc/ipsec/ipsec.conf ipsec restartIf one runs ipsec statusall, then all necessary networks (both LAN-to-LAN, and DMZ-to-LAN) will be listed under "Shunted Connections".