@cmb:
what's their port set to? Sounds like they're both right, you have yours on auto, theirs is forced, and as to be expected with such a misconfiguration, you have a duplex mismatch. Both must match.
The code I included is what they sent me. I can't tell if that says it's set to 100FD or Auto.
However, on my standby box, I played around and when set to 100FD, everything worked fine. Should I just go ahead and force that my primary too? I tried to force 1000Mbps to check but the port totally dropped.
(EDIT)
I forced both the active and passive to 100FD and it seems as if things are much smoother now. I was having erratic upload speeds when I would run a speedtest.net test, but now things are nearly 100Mbs up and down.
Thanks as always cmb.