Thanks for all your help, I finally was able to fixit. My modem was assigning a private address to the wan port, I just needed to unblock private addresses in the wan.
OK Craig at Netgate was kind enough to respond directly to me on this. Evidently this is a bug caused by assigning Tailscale to an interface, which seemed to me like a thing that should be done, but is not the case.
Hi, I wondered if you might add a little more explanation of why it's better to disable Tailscale DNS, especially in the case where subnets are advertised and the pfSense node is an exit node.
@bthoven I found that using Virtual IP for my home.mydomain.com was the issue. Instead, using LAN interface IP (for my pfSense setup--> 192.168.1.1) has solved the problem.