I bought a usb to ethernet adapter (two actually) set it to a simple static IP like 192.168.1. 40/24. Pfsense couldn't ping my connected laptop (192.168.1.41/24) and my laptop couldn't ping pfsense. Verified cables were good, both devices could ping THEMSELVES, even switched usb to ethernet adapters and verified mac addresses were seen using arp -a. But, still no pings.
So, from the menu i did a reset. And reconfigured pfsense to be the DHCP server and use the usb to ethernet adapter interface. BINGO, i can ping back and forth. I can also access the gui!
Over first hurdle, now find out how to upgrade to Plus.
Thank you for your help guys/gals.