@jcubillo
Replying to myself since a friend found this answer and might help somebody else in the future:
"""
You need to install the System Patches package: https://docs.netgate.com/pfsense/en/latest/development/system-patches.html
And apply Patch ID 7dbe76cd5756082cbd67db1b93acb606ad84996e
Then you need to reinstall the FRR package.
see https://redmine.pfsense.org/issues/11290#note-12
"""
This is from:
https://forum.netgate.com/topic/162722/frr-doesn-t-follow-carp-after-2-5-0-upgrade/8
I did exactly that and now Zebra follows the CARP VHID status.