For the people that have been reading this hoping for answers to my questions, maybe I can help you out.
From a newbie standpoint, I have this working:
my ignorance was in understanding that virtual ips, thus this forum being CARP/VIPs, is the key to using CARP/pfsync
Here's what I have that is working in a small test environment:
box1:
WAN: public IP
LAN: 10.2.1.1/16
OPT1: 192.168.10.10
box2:
WAN: public IP
LAN: 10.2.1.2/16
OPT1: 192.168.10.11
In the CARP settings I am sychronizing everything and using the 192 addresses as the peer sync addresses for each box respectively. Box1 has 192.168.10.11 and the webGUI password entered at the bottom of the page on the CARP settings. Box2 has these boxes left blank.
Under virtualIPs I created a new local address of 10.2.1.4/16 associated with the LAN interface that is of type CARP. Put in a VHID password and bahm, CARP up and running.
You can post beginner level questions and I can try to pass on the little bit I've learned.