Don't mind if anyone gets the same issue at least they might benefit from what i did, ..
Did pci passthrough basicly the same result, ..
Tried to see if it was related to only pfsense installed opnsense same result, ..
Made lagg0 of 4 pci gbit nic same result, .. not tested this senario on opnsense though.
I've got the impression there's some sort of bottleneck, .. not quite sure if it's vtnet related.